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Off & On Again? He Knows What He Wants!

Have you ever dated a man who just couldn’t seem to make up his mind about you? Have you ever dated a man who gave you vibes of being together forever, but those vibes were short lived? Have you ever dated a man who needed time away to think, then reappears as the perfect man for you? If you can answer yes to one of these questions, this post is for you.  Let’s face it, most women hate the off and on again cycle of a relationship with a man, but most of the time women do this to themselves....

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How to Fight for Your Relationship with Communication

There may come a time in your relationship when you, your partner, or both of you may feel like your relationship is traveling down the wrong path. Obviously, if either one of you feel like this, this is a very vital time within your relationship. But is it really the beginning of the end, or is it just a bump in the road that can be repaved with a little work? I would say most of the time the answer is the latter. Most differences between couples can be worked out or reconciled, but we as humans by nature default...

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A Reminder Of How Powerful Forgiveness Can Be

FORGIVENESS For all of your relationships that did not work out, there is only one common denominator. You! Although you may have come across some people who have caused you a lot of pain, it’s okay to admit that you made some bad choices in the past. Sometimes pain is the result of when lust was mistaken for love and you went all in with your heart only to have it broken because you were blinded by deception. But don’t let your pain cause you to group all people into one category. There’s a big difference between all and all...

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The Absence of a Tear is No Implication of What’s Inside

INVISIBLE TEARS Sometimes the pain could hurt so much that you can’t even cry, but just because the tears aren’t seen doesn’t mean they’re not inside. It’s like we’re hurting and searching for the one who cries, but we never find that person when no tears fall from our eyes. The absence of a tear is no implication of what’s inside. When the pain can’t be seen, it’s often misclassified. To the world it appears as though we hide our pain by refraining our own tears, but a dry cheek doesn’t mean we hide the way we feel. The eyes Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

How The Right Man Will Approach Your Insecurities

CRY FOR ME I know troubled times bring you downIn a world of disappointmentI know you’ve search all aroundFor your heart’s emotional warmingOnly to gain nothing from it It’s hard but you can’t give upBecause your heart has yet to find loveGive me a chance to open upYour heart to what love really doesAnd the results will benefit us Cry out your deepest rain to meBring your darkest pain to meAnd I promise that I will beAll the sun you’ll ever needTo clear the storm you presently see My reply to your cries insideIs the comforting love I provideLet me Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

Natural Crown

People shouldn’t frown at what naturally grows from a crown, nor should it be a dress code violation. We’re living in a nation where people wearing their hair without alterations could end up in altercations. Men and women of color shouldn’t have to cover up their culture just because it’s uncomfortable to others. If we all have the same father, let’s try harder to treat one another like sister and brother. We’re in the 21st century and blacks are still fighting to normalize their naturalness in the United States of America. This united hate is hysterical. We’re in the 21st century and Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

Don’t Lose Yourself While Trying To Find Love

LOST & FOUND Our aspirations to accomplish our goals and dreams can easily impair our vision as we work toward those things. We can become so intoxicated by where we want to be that we can forget about the standards we had set for the person who would be with us during our journey. We can easily lose ourselves by trying to get to the right place with the wrong person and we can easily fool ourselves into making the wrong person feel like they’re worthy, but when we find ourselves we realize we’re more deserving. We all can get Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

Encouraging Words For Developing Patience With Love

AS PATIENT AS LOVE IS We all have had that anxiety attack from anticipating love. You know, when we meet that certain person that we just can’t get enough of. When we prematurely listen for wedding bells but we’re not one hundred percent sure of what love really sounds like ourselves. When we give so much of ourselves so fast that we don’t even take the time to find out if what we’re giving is being reciprocated enough to last. These anxiety attacks of love don’t really attack our hearts. They attack and alter our minds. They cause us to Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

Heartfelt Words To Help You Grieve The Loss Of A Loved One

ALL CRIES The most painful tears fall when a life is taken too soon. I never imagined at all that these tears would fall for you. My everyday life never surfaced the thought of your absence. I am all cries, but I hurt more than any tear can prove. As I spend the rest of my life really trying to grasp this, I have to remember that I was blessed to be a part of your life for as long as it lasted. Even though it didn’t last as long as I wanted it to, God gave me enough of you Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

Regardless Of Strength, Every Woman Wants To Be Treated Like This

COMFORT HER Regardless of how strong she appears to be, still find time to hold her. She may not expose every fear that she meets, but still find time to hold her, just in case she is weak. She may not always speak. No, it is not your job to read her mind, but her body language usually provides the signs that say it is time to be her comforter. When she is in need of a consoling blanket, don’t ignore the signs or the sign language. When her day has gone completely wrong you may be the only one Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

The Perfect Way To Ask For Her Hand In Marriage

PROPOSAL I remember it like it was yesterday. Love was slowly being born with phone conversations from the late night to the morn. If we were not on the phone we were in each other’s arms, holding each other tight like preparing for a storm. The first time we said I love you made us formally together and ever since that day I knew I’d love you forever. All the good times we’ve made, they’ve only made us stronger. Strong enough to live to love each other longer. The way you make me feel is the way I want to Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

Do You Hesitate When Someone Gets Close To Your Heart

NAKED After all this time that we have spent and shared together, in my mind I still find that your heart is still sheltered. I know the past makes you hesitate with moving too fast, but I want to dry the rain and help your sun shine forever. But only together may we find this kind of weather. I feel like you’re protecting your heart with a shield and it’s repelling certain parts of the love that I give. You’re letting me love you, but not every part of you, and I’m doing my best to show you that I’m Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

That Feeling Of Falling In Love With The Same Person

CONTINUOUS LOVE What a pleasure it is to be sharing love with you. As we continue to take love to unlimited heights, I’m more than proud to say that I’m carrying love with you. Before you I never knew what sharing love was like. I never found pleasure in a place that didn’t require sight until love closed my eyes and everything still felt right. I went from questioning God about where this would go to praying hard that he was taking us on an endless road. He answered my questions without even saying a word and he’s giving me Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

How Every Woman Should Feel About Their Natural Beauty

FEEL BEAUTIFUL AS YOU ARE Make up or no make up. Weight down or weight up. Each morning you wake up know that beauty has arisen. You don’t have to work so hard once you realize that your beauty is given. White as snow or dark as charcoal, beauty is your texture. Your beauty within, it projects much more than what your outer beauty gives. No matter what man says, you’re God’s beautiful work of art. So feel beautiful when you talk. Feel beautiful when you walk. Feel beautiful when you smile. Most of all, feel beautiful as you are.

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

A Reminder To Always Embrace Who You Are

IT’S OKAY It’s okay to live outside of what the world knows as normality. It’s okay to grow and create your own reality. It’s okay to be different. It’s okay if they won’t listen. It’s okay if they don’t pay attention, and it’s okay to be yourself without permission. If you’re anything short of yourself, then you’re not truly giving yourself the opportunity to live the life that you were given. It’s okay if you don’t fit in. When an object pierces our skin, we all bleed the same from within. It’s okay if you’re shorter. It’s okay if you’re Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

A Special Way To Say I Love You On Valentine’s Day

HAPPY VALENTINE’S LIFE This is more than an overrated day to show how much I love you. This is just one of many ways to validate how much I still do. You’re more than a day to me. You’re more than a day could ever be. When this day leaves and tomorrow arrives, my heart will still beat like the first time… Like the first time I said I love you, like the first time I kissed and hugged you. I may shower you with gifts, candy, and roses, but the gift you shower me with… it waters my heart and Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

An Inspiring Reminder That Your Beauty Begins Within

INNER BEAUTY If looking in the mirror makes you insecure inside, then insecurity dwells where beauty should reside. You may think that you can’t see it, but your beauty is already done. Keep reading this and believing that you’re as beautiful as anyone. If you look into the mirror with doubt in your mind that what you see is beautiful – always remember this next line. “Beauty always begins within, holding the things that I can’t see, and once I learn to let go of them my beauty will glow physically.” God created us all and his creations are never Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

A Very Romantic Way To Say I Love You

THIS IS LOVE I have never had a feeling like this in my life before. All I know is that this is a feeling I can’t ignore. I found a gift that we share in which only God could give. From my heart I promise you this is what it is… It is you. It is I. It is us. This is love. The thought of you feels better than being with anyone. When I think of you I always think about the next time I get to look into your eyes and see what love has done. I know Read more…

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Encouraging Words For A Broken Heart

LOVE ISN’T OVER Your heart is hurting because the comfortable shoulder you have always cried on belongs to the same person who is currently responsible for your tears. Now this soft shoulder feels more like a boulder that’s too rough to lie on, and your fear of seeing love in the rear repeatedly appears. You don’t want to leave because your exit may manifest loneliness, but don’t let the thought of loneliness keep you from moving on from this. Just remember… your heart doesn’t belong like this. You have too much to offer to settle for being treated wrong like Read more…

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By Rodrick Bates, ago

Your Breakthrough May Not Be Just For You

BREAKTHROUGH You may reach a point in life where you feel like something has to give, a point to where you have waited and waited with more patience and more patience until your patience becomes so deflated that it turns into frustration. You may feel like you have worked so hard for so long with so much faith that you start to question what have you been doing wrong from day to day. It’s natural to feel a little down when your work, patience, and faith doesn’t seem to be gratifying. This is when you really should take a step Read more…

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An Extremely Thoughtful Way To Display Your Love

WE US & OURS For so long I have lived for just me, myself, and I. Now I have found a gift, which is a love outside of me that feels so good inside. The way that togetherness lies. The way that the weather has chimed is causing my heart to provide a feeling I can’t describe. As love has blown unexplained feelings into both our lives, it’s been the best emotional healing and I’m ecstatic that love is no longer just mine. All the pain from previous rain has turned into love showers, because me, myself, and I have Read more…

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